This weekend, Americans will celebrate Mother’s Day. A day of gratitude and reflection, of flowers and cards, breakfasts in bed and expressions of love. For those struggling to have a baby, though, Mother’s Day can be incredibly painful.
Our colleagues respond ever year with coping tips and strategies. We write blogs and articles reminding us what not to say to those who are still hoping for a baby. Today, I decided to write about the things we DO say to our clients or patients. I think it is fair and appropriate to not only be sensitive but also to encourage, to empower.
At Gifted Journeys we want every client to feel confident that we, as a part of the family building team, are determined. We want success for our clients, we will do all we have promised and then we’ll continue doing more. We never want our clients to feel alone; we want them to feel confident that while the journey is long, there is a finish line.
The surrogates that we work also feel great compassion for our clients, for all who cannot carry. They are a part of the team, they stand in commitment along with our staff, with the nurses, doctors, mental health professionals, lawyers and anyone and everyone else we bring on to a case. Surrogates want to deliver a baby; they want the life experience of having that baby placed in the arms of waiting parents.
Very few of us anticipate that we will be dealing with infertility. Even fewer anticipate needing to work with a gestational carrier. This is not the way families were intended to come to be. But for some this becomes a reality and for many, surrogacy is the answer. Surrogates celebrate the intended parents for whom they are carrying. For those not yet matched with a carrier, know that there are surrogates waiting to help you, who want to get you to that finish line.
It is a big leap, a painful one from expecting to conceive naturally to perhaps giving up a genetic connection to a hoped for baby. To then also have to let go of carrying a pregnancy, coping with that can be a profound experience. But coping we will do and we will do it together, along with an egg donor or a surrogate or both. We will work together, we will be a team, and we will get you through.
There is always reason for hope. Surrogacy is a beautiful and wonderful resolve to what can otherwise be tragic circumstances. The surrogates we work with want next Mother’s Day to be the most joyful ever; our surrogates want you to reach your family building goal.
Mother’s Day is a tough day for many. We, along with the surrogates with whom we work, want to help you get through.